Finding Balance When Marriage Is a Juggling Act


Finding Balance When Marriage Is a Juggling Act

When asked “what is the hardest part of the marriage” some people would say the beginning is the hardest.  This is when everything is still new and you’re getting the kinks out of your living situation and your relationship as a married couple.  Some will say the 7th year is most difficult when the heat of the passion may be gone or needs rekindling, hence the common used phrase “7 year itch.”.  Others may say the daily grind is the hardest part of the marriage.  Nevertheless, marriage isn’t designed to be full of eternal bliss, but there are some things you can do with your significant other so that you regain what may have gone astray.

Put down the phone!  With over 90% of people in the US using smartphones daily, it goes without question that we now get our daily dose of business and pleasure through our phones.  We are becoming a society that is technologically more connected, yet in doing so, we tend to become more disconnected with the people around us.  Create a standard so that during certain activities, phones may be prohibited!  You may begin to notice each other a bit more.

Are you listening?  Are you?  Smartphones may not be the only source of distraction.  With so many things on our mind now and with the fast-paced lifestyle of modern living, do we stop to really focus on what our significant other is saying?  Active listening is only a part of this.  Do you reflect?  Do you show compassion and understanding?  Not really listening to your spouse may cause a complete disconnect, which could lead to a dissolution of marriage.

Keeping it interesting.  Do you share common interests?  Have they changed?  Maybe you don’t have common interests…so one date night do what your significant other likes to do, then the next date night do what you like to do.  At the same time, being married doesn’t mean you have to do everything together.  Maybe if you don’t share common interests, you can rather do those activities with your children (if applicable) friends or other relatives.  Lastly, maybe you two need a vacation!  Going on a trip and experiencing something new or exotic may keep things interesting for your marital relationship.

Ultimately, a “loveless marriage” isn’t healthy for either party.  If the above suggestions didn’t work out for you, maybe it’s time to speak with a divorce attorney. 

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