Spring Has Sprung: How To Assess Yourself Post-Divorce



Spring Has Sprung:  How To Assess Yourself Post-Divorce

Although we set our clocks forward on March 8, 2020, you may not feel that Spring has sprung.  It may be because you feel you have yet to move on after your divorce was settled.  This is totally understandable.  Feeling this way is more common then you may think.  Divorce is almost like bearing the burden of Winter.  You may feel isolated, withdrawn or depressed.  Now that the sun is shining for more hours in the day, maybe it’s time to peek your head out of your “burrow.”  Here are some tips to help get some pep back in your step.

1. Change Your Routine
Being with a significant other usually means you shared time together, or maybe a routine.  If you’re still on the same schedule and are a creature of habit, you can’t help but notice that there’s a void.  To overcome this, it would be best to change your daily habits and / or responsibilities.  Maybe now is the time to do the things you couldn’t do before because you were in a committed relationship.  Maybe you wanted to take a class or work out or take more time for walks.  Even some minor changes to your routine can make a huge difference.

2.  Reassess Your Life Goals / Plan
Life will be different after your divorce.  Is another marriage what you want?  Do you see yourself romantically involved with someone else?  Will there be new children Do you want to change careers?  Do you plan on moving…even to another State?  Or do you continue pursuing your original goals?  Regardless of what the answer is, now is the time to step back and think if you are making any adjustments with your life.

3.  Spend Time With Friends
Spending too much time at your abode may make you get a little stir crazy.  Or maybe too much outside activity begs you to stay in.  Depending on what you really want, don’t do it alone!  Spend time with friends indoors or outdoors doing things together, even if it’s just keeping each other company.  It would be very beneficial to spend time with people who make you happy during this transitional time of your life.

4.  Focus On The Positive

Sometimes this can be easier said than done, but even a little focus can go a long way.  Otherwise, chances are you may end up dwelling on negative things.  Yes, you will go through some type of grieving process, which includes catharsis, but still focus on the positives in your life so you are motivated to get through this grieving process.  You might “find yourself” again.

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