COMMON CHALLENGES THAT PROPEL YOU INTO A DIVORCE
The reasons why someone would want a divorce are countless and extremely varied. Each couple has their own specific reason, their crux or root of the problem so to speak. Of course, some issues are minor or mere misunderstandings that can be remidied, while perhaps other issues can’t be resolved at all. Here are some common reasons why a marriage may lead to divorce.
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Finances. It should come as no surprise that financial
hardships or challenges cause strain a marriage. If there is no resolution or your spouse
doesn’t seem to care or put an effort in resolving your financial obligations,(
i.e. they continue to gamble, buy another pair of shoes, etc.) then it may get
to a point where one would say, “enough is enough.”
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Parenting. If it’s not finances, then it’s about the
kids. As a parent, you both want the
best for your children. However, what
you think is “the best” may not be the opinion of your spouse. Having differing opinions as top what is best
and having different parenting styles will frequently cause friction in the
marriage. Of course, more serious problems such as neglect or abuse will certainly create a lot of tension in the
marriage. Overall, the emotional,
spiritual, physical and psychological well-being of your family should be of
highest priority.
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Being present. Your spouse may “be there, but not be
there.” Just because they come home every
night doesn’t mean they’re necessarily keeping the emotional and physical
connection with you. If the flame is
completely out and there’s no longer any interest, particularly if you come to
find you mutually are no longer interested in each other, will typically result
in divorce unless each individual makes an effort to better the relationship.
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Infidelity. Although this may seem obvious, there are
some less obvious things to note about infidelity. The main question should be, “Why did you no
longer remain faithful to me?”
Typically, when one will “be there, but not be there,” they may be
emotionally void of your marital relationship.
Maybe they no longer connect with you emotionally, spiritually,
etc. Sometimes infidelity is merely for
the “easy sex,” but sometimes it’s because your spouse wants to have that
emotional intimacy with another human being, but that person may no longer be
you. If it was merely for the sexual
encounter and nothing more, can you forgive them and move on? Can any of this be resolved with couples’
counseling? If not, then a divorce may
be the decision a couple in this situation will choose.
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Resentment. If it is one, some, or all of the above
reasons, it should come to no surprise that resentment typically sets in. Resentment is simply the result of not being
able to forgive or let go of the hurt or harm that was caused by your spouse. If it was infidelity, you may still be angry
even though you said you “forgave” your spouse.
This resentment could easily multiply, especially, for example, if you
get approached by others that show an interest in you. If you truly can’t forgive or let go of
whatever caused the resentment between you and your spouse, then a divorce may
be the solution.
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