The 3 C's of A Healthy Marriage


The 3 C's of A Healthy Marriage

It is well-known that a marriage will have its ups and downs.  However, sometimes a marriage may feel like it is continuously trending in a downward spiral.  If you prioritize your marriage, you will appreciate “The 3 C’s of Marriage.”


The first C, “Constant” represents what you should be doing, constantly maintaining your relationship.  What does that mean?  That will mean something different for every couple.  Maybe it’s constantly scheduling at least 1 or 2 dates per month or constantly alternating making each other dinner.  Whatever it may be, it is important to be persistent with prioritizing your relationship.  Otherwise, if the effort is lacking by one or both parties, the relationship suffers.


The second C is to be “Clear.”  You need to always be clear in your relationship.  Maybe you need to be clear with finances, schedules, life-changing events, planning for the family, getting a pet, goals and desires,  and so on.  The reality is life events (or lack thereof) may trigger one or both parties to change their life’s goals or plans.  By changing your focus or direction in life,  you are not only changing your own life’s expectations but also theexpectations of your spouse and the family.  This is why you must be clear throughout the years.  Once you stop being clear with how you feel about things, or if your spouse no longer seems to be clear with his or her thoughts and feelings, the marriage may continue to dissolve.


The final C is to make sure you keep up with your “Communication.” The lack of communication is a common reason why a spouse may feel absent in the relationship or feel that one or both of you are drifting apart.  Do you have resentment towards your spouse?  Talk about it!  Did they say something that made you upset? Talk about it! The end result may not be a big deal after all or maybe it will be.  Regardless of whether it will end with war or peace it still needs to be communicated.  If a marriage is healthy, it will have its occasional arguments and disagreements but most of the time you should be able to find closure and move on.

If your marriage is not as healthy as it should be, try the 3 C’s and see if you have any positive change.  If you cannot maintain the 3 C’s of Marriage and want to discuss your divorce options, then please do not hesitate to contact Fernandez, Socci & Nieves Family Law.

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