Tips on How to Increase Intimacy in a Marital Relationship

Tips on How to Increase Intimacy in a Marital Relationship

Some married couples feel that social distancing and isolation during the pandemic has caused them to drift apart, particularly with the level of intimacy in their relationship.  Here are some suggestions to consider that may help increase the intimacy in your relationship.


What are the hurdles?

Over time, married couples may notice their intimacy is declining simply from being “comfortable with each other.”  This is not necessarily a bad thing if the amount of intimacy is considered  adequate by the couple.  However, there could be some hurdles or “turn off’s” that are blocking the potential of more intimacy.  A married couple should feel comfortable enough to ask what type of sexual activities are enjoyed.  Further, this may open up an opportunity to try new things.  If a married couple cannot talk about these things or feels threatened or is belittled to try new sexual activities, a family therapist may be considered to help counsel the married couple.

What are the needs?

Obviously each personhas different needs and ideas when it comes to sex and intimacy..  For example, a nice candlelit dinner may be needed to help put one person “in the mood.”  This may seem clich├ęd, but if sex becomes too routine, the spark may go out in the relationship.  This is just one simple example.  Everyone has different needs.  It is best to find out what those needs are by discussing sex and intimacy with your spouse.

Have you shown you care?

Do you have a spouse that always says things like, “I’m too tired,” or “Can we do this another time?” You may need to tell them that the timing of things may not always be perfect, but that it’s important to you to have intimate time with them so you continue to feel connected to them in a special way.   Perhaps a spouse doesn’t feel self-confident and needs a boost from their spouse. Take the time to compliment your spouse and treat your spouse  to a special dinner or spa day. This willmake sure you that they know you care  so that you both will not only look great, but feel great too.


If you are having intimacy problems with your spouse and are considering divorce , it is best to seek advice from a trusted family law firm.  If you would like to talk to an attorney at Fernandez, Socci & Nieves Family Law, please email us at [email] or call us at 978-681-5454.

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